Tips for Successful Parent-Teacher Communication
Parent-teacher communication is an art.
For teachers, it takes patience, practice, and poise to not only keep your students’ parents informed about what their children will be learning week to week but also keep them in the loop about everything from upcoming special events and state assessments to more delicate topics like individual students’ behavioral issues and academic feedback.
For parents, getting their children ready for the new school year also includes preparing themselves, as they need to meet and build a relationship with their children’s teachers, too.
There are well-known benefits of establishing strong parent-teacher communication throughout the school year, but what are the best practices for doing so? Here are some tips to help teachers and parents establish successful lines of communication.
Communication Tips for Teachers
Aim for positive interactions
First impressions aren't always right, but it never hurts to put your best foot forward. Just like you would if you were meeting a new colleague at work, make an effort to be your best self the first time you meet a student’s parents. Smile, shake hands, make eye contact, and ask “get to know you” questions. Kick off the conversation with a positive remark about their child, and let them know you're looking forward to working together for the rest of the school year.
While you don't need to be best friends forever with every parent, but establishing a good relationship with classroom families right from the get-go can help make the rest of the school year a whole lot easier. After all, the success of a student is achieved as a result of time spent both inside and outside of the classroom.
Collect Your Own Information
Try to get as much detailed contact information as possible from your students’ care giver's on day one. It may feel a little excessive to ask people to fill out a form just for your class when they have probably already submitted their information for the school directory, but having your own detailed contact form can really come in handy, especially for the families of younger students whom you need regular contact with.
Think about it—you may have a home phone number on file through your school’s LMS, but do you know that mom prefers to text or that grandpa helps with carpool two days a week? Learning as much as you can about who your students spend their time with at home can go a long way toward establishing great communication.
Be Crystal Clear
Right from the start, let families know why, when, how, and how often you plan on contacting them. Then, inform them exactly how they can get in touch with you. Assure them that you value their time, understand their busy schedules, and will do your best to accommodate them—just like you expect they will do for you.
Communicate exactly what time you will be available to meet in person or virtually during the school day, and try to stick to that schedule so that you can be found when you’re needed. Then, when you’re done telling them, give them some type of take-home reference with all of the information you just went over—preferably in a format that won’t get lost or quickly tossed away. Fun ideas include easy-to-make business cards, refrigerator magnets, postcards, and flip books.
Make Technology Your Friend
We’ve come a long way since the days of weekly class newsletters and safety-pinning important reminders to students before they go home for the day. With a few taps, swipes, or clicks, you can now text, instant message, or email blast to alert your class’ parents of homework reminders, field trip updates, and syllabus changes.
There are tons of apps out there specifically tailored to helping teachers keep in touch with parents, organize class volunteers, and make announcements. Google Voice, for example, sends an email of each voicemail in writing so that documenting is made easy. There are also apps that can be used to send a single voice recording to a large group (so you only have to dial once). That’s a huge timesaver for sharing urgent reminders!
Make Time for Face Time
Sometimes, the occasion may call for more creative meetings to accommodate for unpredictable schedules. Give your class parents the option to schedule video or in-person meetings with you. You can also try more low-tech options when it comes to finding time to meet with parents, such as sending a friendly note home with a student if you are having trouble getting in touch through email.
If you’re still having trouble getting in touch, you can always plan to try and chat when someone might be making a trip to school for another reason, such as end-of-day pickup or after-school sports activities, to see if you can set up some time to meet later on.
Document Parent Communication
Keeping a parent communication log is a must when it comes to staying organized in a busy classroom. A parent communication log will help you keep track of what exchanges you have with parents, record how often they are asking for their children to be excused, and get a feel for what method of communication is getting the best response. Logging communication after it happens will also help jog your memory before parent-teacher conferences so that you can develop a better relationship over time.
Call Home with Good News
You already know to call a parent when something is wrong, but how about getting in the habit of calling with praise for your students as well? Try setting communication goals to seek out a couple of positive interactions a week—such as sending notes home, shooting off a text, or making a quick phone call.
These upbeat interactions come back around and will inevitably give students a more positive feeling about school. Plus, if you call to brag on something good a student has done, parents will be less anxious when they see your number popping up from time to time.
Be Prepared
When the time does come to call a student’s home and inform a parent about a problem—whether it is social, academic, behavioral, or anything else—always come prepared to discuss not only what strategies you have already used to try to mitigate the problem but also what other possible solutions you would like to try.
Be ready to adjust your plans based on parent input and assure them that their involvement is vital to their child’s success. Parents will appreciate you for not just dropping problems in their lap and will feel more comfortable working with you when you already have some solutions in mind.
Use Volunteers
One of the best ways to stay in touch with the parents of your students is to get them involved in the classroom. Using parent volunteers not only helps you by adding an extra pair of hands to your sometimes-chaotic class, but it also makes your students feel proud when they see their parents are involved. Make sure that you are very familiar with your school policies on volunteering and that you have a plan of action when it comes to how you'll use your volunteers.
You should also stress that volunteering doesn’t always have to happen between the hours of 8 AM and 3 PM. Volunteering can be about reading to the class or chaperoning field trips, but it can also be done by helping students during small-group work, sorting and organizing papers, administering missed tests, or helping with after-school activities.
Communication Tips for Parents
Stay In Touch Regularly
Communication is key when it comes to helping your child succeed. You and your child’s teacher are partners in your child's education, and you can be a powerful team when you work together. Be sure to attend parent-teacher conferences to stay up to date on your child's progress at school. Offering up information that may be useful to the teacher will also help with instruction, such as anything that’s going on at home or any other changes that you noticed as a parent, as there may be many external factors in your child's life that could affect his or her learning.
Ask Questions
There are no stupid questions! Teachers appreciate your involvement and eagerness to understand, so be sure to lay out whatever issues or questions you may have. If you're not sure about something your child has shared with you, check in with the teacher, as there may be times your child misheard or misunderstood something the teacher said. Sending a quick email to your child's teacher can definitely help clear the air.
Ask How to Support the Teacher
Let's face it. Teachers do a lot. They're trying to teach and care for many students who are at many different levels of learning all at once; they're trying to make their lessons fun, creative, and engaging; they’re having to play multiple roles (including counselor, coach, custodian, and cheerleader); and some are even having to leave the school day to work another job because the pay just isn't enough. Teachers do what they do because they're passionate about it, but they could use a little help here and there. Reaching out to offer help with anything can really support and encourage your child's teacher. Even little things like volunteering time in the classroom or helping tidy and organize classroom materials can make a big difference.
Be Willing to Set Emotions Aside
Sometimes, it's difficult for parents to receive critical feedback about their child and not take it as a personal reflection of themselves or their parenting. But, again, your child's teacher is your ally and partner in shaping your child’s growth, and the teacher can provide some valuable insight into or tips for helping your child academically. Reserve your judgment when listening to your child's teacher, and be willing to hear an alternative point of view about your child. Keep in mind that it's also difficult for your child's teacher to bring up things! Help make the process easier for teachers by listening attentively and patiently to their feedback.
Communicate Directly with the Teacher Before Escalating Issues
If you're facing a disagreement with your child's teacher, it may be tempting to go straight to the administration to discuss the issue. However, that could cause unnecessary tension with your child's teacher. Before escalating anything, communicate with your child’s teacher, using email at the very least. That may end up resolving or clearing up the situation before it grows bigger.
Offer Grace
Although teaching is an incredibly rewarding job, it's also incredibly challenging. Extend some grace to your child’s teachers for mistakes made or things overlooked. Be understanding if your child’s teacher is not that perfect teacher who can anticipate every need and issue that comes up in the classroom. Teachers will appreciate your compassion!
As one of our team members, Wendy, put it best: “I always like to remind parents and teachers that we are all on the same team. We both want what’s best for the student, but we might just differ on the methods to get there.”
Interested in learning more ways to foster a positive relationship with your child’s teacher this year? Check out these five questions all parents should ask their child’s educators!